- Song of Songs 1:2 (NLT)
At the end of their first date, the young man took her home and walked her to the door Something about the night gave him courage and he decided to go for that important first kiss
He leaned with his hand against the wall and giving her his best smile he asked, “How about a
goodnight kiss?"
Horrified, she replied, "Are you mad? My parents will see us!"
"Oh come on! Who's going to be awake at this hour?"
"No, please. Can you imagine if we get caught?"
"Oh come on, there's nobody watching, they're all sleeping!"
"No way. It's just too risky!"
"Oh please, please, I like you so much!!"
"No, no, and no. I like you too, but I just can't!"
"Oh yes you can. Please?"
"NO, no. I just can't."
"Pleeeeease? . . ."
The porch light went on, scaring them both
The front door opened, and the girl's younger sister stood there in her pajamas, her hair a mess
In a sleepy voice she said, "Dad says to go ahead and give him a kiss. Or I can do it. Or if need be, he'll come down himself and do it. But whatever you do tell him to take his hand off the intercom button!"
There is some definite electricity when the right two people find each other
I wouldn’t always call it love at first sight, but it is real
And it is exciting
Of all the things God created in those first six days – the beauty of nature, animals, sunsets, man
He followed up with a pretty great add-on a few days later
As Genesis 2 tells the story - God created Adam on the sixth day, and not long afterward, created Eve to be his wife
When God brought Eve to Adam, He introduced them to a physical gift that has brought intimacy between a man and a woman!
Accepting God’s advice on how to use that gift has been our challenge!
There aren’t any details given about how they spent those first days together
If God taught them to touch, to kiss - or if it was just an instinctive action
I am sure that it was very powerful
What we do know is that their sexual relationship was a gift from God
It tripled to their attraction to each other
They found great joy in touching and loving, being together
We use the word “intimacy” to describe their relationship
It means “To share with another person emotionally and deeply”
Someone called it “To be connected at the soul”
To know and feel each other’s heart
To be able to discuss any and every subject freely
To feel completely comfortable with opening your heart to another
You can laugh together, cry together, share each other’s pain
It is possible to feel that way toward another person without ever touching
In fact, that is the purpose and design of dating – to get to know each other’s soul
Hours on the phone, writing your thoughts in letters or on the internet
Every chance you get, you are together – you don’t want to be apart
Soon you are talking about a life-time commitment and getting married
In marriage, you share nearly everything – a name, a home, a bed, a future – just not a
toothbrush
Physical intimacy becomes a part of your life together
In God’s words, “two become one” - total intimacy – emotional, spiritual, sexual
Here is some advice from the giver of sex...
Directions from the creator of intimacy
Here is God’s design for “normal”
One man, one woman, together for life And a commitment to save the sexual union until after the "I do's" are said
I was talking with a friend who is dating someone regularly, starting to talk about marriage
He had a conversation with a co-worker who asked if we were living together
When he said no, they were confused
“How will you know if this is the right person?”
Would you buy a car without taking it out for a test drive?
Would you take a job without going in the office to look things over first?
How do you know if you are compatible?
Instead of poking holes in the common logic, let me tell you what God calls normal
Genesis 2:18 “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’”
One man, one woman, together for life
You will have good friends, of the same gender or the opposite gender
You will have a special relationship with your parents
But the plan is that you find a person of the opposite gender and commit yourself a lifetime
together
Matthew 19:6 “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Once you are together, don’t separate, don’t divorce
Keep going, whatever the crisis
Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage be kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
Marriage is honorable, and 100% sexual purity is the way that works
Anything else that you do will bring God’s judgment, his discipline
He is very clear because he doesn’t want you to miss out
Find someone of the opposite gender
Leave your parents, get married, and stay faithful to each other until death
Boring? No! Instead God's "normal" is incredibly powerful
It is the foundation of intimacy
The recipe that works
If you need references, there are lots of them around you
Make a note about who is happy and who is still searching
Watch the couples who have lived together without being married
They have a basic disrespect for themselves and each other
There is a significant difference between “new” and “used”
No matter what your commitment level or love for each other, it is difficult to erase the “used” feeling between two people who have already been intimate with someone else
It will affect the rest of your life with them
The secret to passion and intimacy is following the advice of the one who created us
His “normal” is the pathway to intimacy.
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